Children who have lost a loved one
Children at different ages have different perceptions and understandings of death. They have unique challenges and grief reactions. They may not be able to articulate their feelings, which may then be manifested through problematic behaviors in daily lives. For example, younger children may cry more often and demonstrate regressive behaviors. They may have inadequate understanding of death, and may be curious about it and others’ reactions.
- Let them feel safe and supported.
- Show them how to grieve by your role-modelling, e.g., we may cry and share memories about the deceased.
- Teach them about death. Offer them age-appropriate information. And let them ask questions.
- Prepare and support them to participate in funeral.
- Encourage them to express their emotions in their own ways, such as drawing, or doing crafts.
- Allow your child to play and have fun. Play is their language. They can release stress and emotions through playing.
- Maintain a stable routine for your child to establish a sense of security and order.
For more information, please refer to the booklet “Children, Walk On - Growing Up with Children from Grief” published by the Faculty of Social Sciences of the University of Hong Kong (Chinese only)
https://www.socsc.hku.hk/icgb2014/frame/pdf/tips/prelude_tips_leaflet_seminar7.pdf
